Every now and then I’d have someone sit across me and list out their life. It’ll be filled with: accomplishments, stories, feates, trials, tribulations, successes. Yet, they’d look at me square in the eye and tell me, “I am unsure of which choice to take next”. They have a list mentally prepared, yet there is uncertainty. After all, what is left in the lifespan of life, is less than what has passed. Their days, realistically, are numbered.

Options options. There’s a the choice paradox. I continuously say, if you were born in a village and only had 5 people to choose from. You’d choose. When we’re blessed with options, this blessing could turn into a conundrum.

The work is in narrowing while uncovering.

Together, we delve. Past, present and future. We discuss some of my favorite topics: death and legacy. One of the questions being, “what do you think people will be saying at your funeral and what do you want them to say your funeral?”

A reminder that if you don’t like the conversation, you can change it. Even if you’re dead. You can’t control everything, but you can shift the probable outcome, but you already know that. After all, you still have enough time.

Time for the defenses to come up. Let’s examine them. After all, they speak with the deep discomfort that comes with them. What are they saying? And, more importantly, are you listening?

Some fear death. Others are comfortable with it. Yet, despite where you have arrived in your life. Success and all. Someplace, somewhere, there will be fear and avoidance. A reminder, that despite all the feats, you are still human, there is still more unknown and that’s painfully, hauntingly, beautiful.

Beyond that, the topic of death and legacy isn’t limited to those near the end of their lives. Rather, I encourage everyone to stop and contemplate. Death could come at anytime and as much as that makes us feel deeply uncomfortable. Once you’re on the other side of that processed realization, its freeing. It is essentially, what they call, alignment.

Sometimes the outcome is doubling down on what you already suspected. Walking out with conviction. Other times its walking out with a completely different outcome.

You won’t know until try.

What do you think they’ll be discussing in your funeral?